Freedom Programme

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“All I can say I hate my past and love my future.

The past is prison in which I was kept for eight years and the future is freedom”

FREEDOM PROGRAMME created by Pat Craven

Limited crèche spaces available

None of this is your fault, You are not to blame
He was abusive before you met him, Controlling women is his game

We have been delivering Freedom Programme for seven years and are currently delivering our 21st Programme.

The 11 week programme is open to women 16+ who want to learn more about the reality of domestic violence and abuse in relationships. Each session runs for 2 hours per week and explores the abusive tactics, controlling behaviours and belief systems of the dominator and the effects on our health and well-being

As it is a rolling programme you can start the programme at any point and can catch up on any missed sessions when they are repeated.

We understand how hard it can be to attend a programme for the first time which is why we can arrange to meet you beforehand to explain the programme and answer any questions you may have.

PLEASE NOTE – YOU DO NOT HAVE TO TALK ABOUT YOUR OWN EXPERIENCE DURING SESSIONS

All women are actively welcomed to the Freedom Programme. We never give advice or tell a woman that she should leave. If it were that easy, she would have already left. Judgemental statements such as ‘I would never let anyone do that to me’ or ‘this has never happened to me’ is simply not acceptable.

Facilitators refer to all women as ‘us’ and would never use the dreaded words ‘these women’.

These programmes are only for the women who attend them, observers are not endorsed.

You can stop and start the programme whenever you want and if you come once and decide it’s not for you then that is entirely up to you. You will be welcomed back at any time and will not be questioned why you haven’t been.

Some women complete it in one programme whilst some women dip in and out and have taken a year to complete it fully.

Either way you will be welcomed back at any point

Recognise The Persuader?
He is the ‘Oscar Winning Performer’ We study him in detail in session 10. The persuader uses threats or coercion to get us to either stay with him, take him back and/or to drop charges. He is a master manipulator. After this session we realise that his tears are all an act. He’s fine tuned his acting skills over the years.
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To see some of the comments from women who have completed the programme go to Womens Comments page.

Everyone who attends the programme will receive a free copy of ‘Living With The Dominator’image

And a copy of The Home Study Workbook which is a supplement to ‘Living With The Dominator’.

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The Dominator
The Dominator
The aims of the Freedom Programme are:

To help women understand the beliefs held by abusive men and in doing so, recognise which of these beliefs they may have shared

To illustrate the effects of domestic violence on children

To assist women to recognise potential future abusers and assist in breaking the cycle of violence

To help women gain self-esteem and the confidence to improve the quality of their lives

To introduce women to community resources

Weekly Sessions:

Week 1 – Introduction – the Dominator

Week 2 – The Bully

Week 3 – The Badfather

Week 4 – Effects on Children

Week 5 – The Jailer

Week 6 – The Headworker

Week 7 – The Sexual controller

Week 8 – King of The Castle

Week 9 – The Liar

Week 10 -The Persuader

Week 11 – Early Warning Signs

The Bully smashes things, shouts, glares & sulks

The Jailor cuts you off from your friends

The Headworker makes you feel ugly and useless

The Persuader threatens to find you wherever you go

The Liar blames you, drugs, drink, stress etc

The Badfather uses the children to control you

The King of the Castle controls all the finances & makes all the decisions

The Sexual Controller expects sex on demand

We end each session with the non-abusive counterpart as pictured in the graphic below.

Positive behaviours and personas:

The Friend Is cheerful and consistent

The Liberator welcomes your friends and family

The Confidence Booster tells you you’re competent

The Negotiator takes responsibility for his well-being and happiness

The Truthteller admits to being wrong

The Goodfather is a responsible parent

The Partner shares financial responsibility

The Lover accepts that you have a right to say “no” to sex

He is not a saint he is just a decent human being

How hard can that be??

Mr Nice

For further information and/or to enroll and arrange initial appointment please call 07868163103 info@birminghamfreedomproject.org
Click here to read our Freedom Poems
Click here to see our Freedom Artwork
Click here to read our comments

“I recently attended the freedom programme following an abusive partner and it really changed my life. It gave me the clarity and strength needed to understand my situation and leave my abuser once and for all. The passion and commitment that Jacky and Donna possess to deliver the programme was another huge source of strength and again gave me the courage and wisdom I needed to overcome this period of my life. Subsequently I have not only left my abuser behind and I am building a positive life for myself and my son but also have helped other family members and friends out of their abusive relationships with the knowledge and integrity I gained from the freedom project. I will be forever grateful to all concerned with this project and I feel without them my story would have been far from positive. This work needs to continue not only for women in current abusive patterns but for future generations as abusive patterns are known to repeat. I cannot emphasis enough the important place this work has for our society. With the greatest respect and gratitude – H”

“Thanks to you (and support from all the girls I shared my journey with), I was able to predict his next move of persuasion and abuse, keeping me from going back. For this reason, my son will get the chance to have a happy, stable and safe childhood. I am rebuilding my relationship with friends and family and I can look forward to a loving relationship in the future, filled with respect, equality and happiness. But most important of all, we are still alive”

We now have a fundraising page on localgiving.com/freedomproject

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