“All I can say I hate my past and love my future.
None of this is your fault, You are not to blame
He was abusive before you met him, Controlling women is his game
We have been delivering the Freedom Programme for over eight years. The 11 week programme is open to women 16+ who want to learn more about the reality of domestic violence and abuse in relationships. Each session runs for 2 hours per week and explores the abusive tactics, controlling behaviours and belief systems of the dominator and the effects on our health and well-being
As it is a rolling programme you can start the programme at any point and can catch up on any missed sessions when they are repeated.
We understand how hard it can be to attend a programme for the first time which is why we can arrange to meet you beforehand to explain the programme and answer any questions you may have.
PLEASE NOTE – YOU DO NOT HAVE TO TALK ABOUT YOUR OWN EXPERIENCE DURING SESSIONS
All women are actively welcomed to the Freedom Programme. We never give advice or tell a woman that she should leave. If it were that easy, she would have already left. Judgemental statements such as ‘I would never let anyone do that to me’ or ‘this has never happened to me’ is simply not acceptable.
Facilitators refer to all women as ‘us’ and would never use the dreaded words ‘these women’.
These programmes are only for the women who attend them, observers are not endorsed.
You can stop and start the programme whenever you want and if you come once and decide it’s not for you then that is entirely up to you. You will be welcomed back at any time and will not be questioned why you haven’t been.
Some women complete it in one programme whilst some women dip in and out and have taken a year to complete it fully. Either way you will be welcomed back.
Everyone who attends the programme will receive a free copy of ‘Living With The Dominator’ and a copy of The Home Study Workbook which is a supplement to ‘Living With The Dominator’.
The aims of the Freedom Programme are:
To help women understand the beliefs held by abusive men and in doing so, recognise which of these beliefs they may have shared
To illustrate the effects of domestic violence on children
To assist women to recognise potential future abusers and assist in breaking the cycle of violence
To help women gain self-esteem and the confidence to improve the quality of their lives
To introduce women to community resources
Week 1 – Introduction – the Dominator
Week 2 – The Bully
Week 3 – The Badfather
Week 4 – Effects on Children
Week 5 – The Jailer
Week 6 – The Headworker
Week 7 – The Sexual controller
Week 8 – King of The Castle
Week 9 – The Liar
Week 10 -The Persuader
Week 11 – Early Warning Signs
The Bully smashes things, shouts, glares & sulks.
The Jailor cuts you off from your friends.
The Headworker makes you feel ugly and useless.
The Persuader threatens to find you wherever you go.
The Liar blames you, drugs, drink, stress etc.
The Badfather uses the children to control you.
The King of the Castle controls all the finances & makes all the decisions.
The Sexual Controller expects sex on demand.
We end each session with the non-abusive counterpart as pictured in the graphic below.
Positive behaviours and personas:
The Friend is cheerful and consistent.
The Liberator welcomes your friends and family.
The Confidence Booster tells you you’re competent.
The Negotiator takes responsibility for his well-being and happiness.
The Truthteller admits to being wrong.
The Good Father is a responsible parent.
The Partner shares financial responsibility.
The Lover accepts that you have a right to say “no” to sex.
He is not a saint he is just a decent human being. How hard can that be??
For further information and/or to enrol please call 07868163103 or email firstname.lastname@example.org
Limited crèche spaces available.
To see some of the comments from women who have completed the programme visit the Womens Comments page.
We now have a fundraising page on localgiving.com/freedomproject